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When did success become something no one wants to talk about? When did sharing the good things in life become something to shy away from? Maybe it’s just me and my husband, but I doubt it. It’s hard to talk about our success, especially right now, but it’s been this way for years. Why?
Even semi-anonymously, I shy away from talking about my successes in my business and life. I don’t want to have people thinking poorly of me because I am sharing how good my life is. I know people who post only the good things and often, if not to their face certainly in private groups or chats, they are dragged for it.
I realize that those people who post ONLY good things don’t seem as “real” as others. I also know that a lot of people are just waiting for something, anything, bad being posted about those people. Is it the politics of the day? Is it how society has divided itself into two groups, those who have and those who don’t?
I’ve tried to tell people, who think that no one can have the “American dream”, that anyone CAN work to get it. I myself started off poor, even on welfare, and I worked my ass off to continue to homeschool my boys while also supporting us. It took me about 14 years to start a business of my own that worked and it became successful. Now I employ 8 people! We had some help from family, but it was our hard work that built our business. We didn’t, and really still don’t, know how to run a business, but we’re still successful at it! If we knew what we were doing we’d probably be even more successful. LOL
My point is, it’s not about where you come from or where you are starting out. It’s not about your background, your race, your religion…. success is about YOU and how hard you work to get there. However, as long as people are concerned about talking about their success or are lied about and shouted down when they are talking about it, then others will never learn this. We learn best by example. If there are no examples of success around you, then you believe that there’s no way you can attain it.
Our society vilifies the successful. Whether it’s rhetoric of “eat the rich”, “the rich need to pay their fair share” or if it’s conspiracy theories on how all rich people are like Mr. Burns from the Simpsons… all of this vilification and “othering” of successful people makes other people not want to work hard to get to be successful!
I think what I’m trying to say is that as long as you tell yourself or others that those who are successful are somehow not entitled to their success for whatever reason, then you’ll never be successful yourself. What we focus on in the world is what our world looks like. It’s up to you to decide to be happy and successful or to be sad and failed. Perspective and attitude makes all the difference in your life.